Undivided Grief
“Sometimes, the best thing you can do for someone is to leave them alone.”
“What is wrong with you? Please tell me”, one of my close friends asked me for the umpteenth time and I just stared at the wall in front of me and repeated for what felt like repeating since eternity, “Nothing, I want to be left alone with my thoughts for some time.”
We have been told since a really long time that we should share our grief, it would make us feel lighter and better and help us let go of it and related stuff. While this may be true to some extent, what we often ignore is the fact that the more we share our grief with others, the more we remind even ourselves of it and the harder it becomes to let go of it. Sometimes, the best thing we can do to someone is leave them alone for some time with their thoughts. Nobody else, but you yourself know yourself and your life the best. In such a scenario, when you are left alone for some time with your thoughts, you not only learn to deal with them better but also the ways to let go of whatever negativity you are going through. So the next time you see someone upset or at unease with their thoughts, make sure you do not intervene in their own understanding of their grief and thereby getting out of it on their own, which will also increase their self-confidence to a large extent.
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