Balance Your Tolerance
You must pay close attention to what and how much you tolerate something. Your tolerance defines the quality of your life more than you think it does.
A world dealing with the after effects of a pandemic and the antecedent of waves after waves of an illness has become different than the world before the pandemic. Not only has an invisible virus made tangible changes around us now entrenched in all areas, economic, medical, et. all, it has not spared the social areas of our lives too.
The times close to around two years now have taught me more than any other segment of my life, one of the lessons being that of tolerance. People complain about our lives being miserable on many days as they tell about their horrible bosses, indifferent spouses, undisciplined children, changed friendships. What they fail to always notice is that they have been tolerating all the things they hate that they should not and sometimes, they are overreacting on petty issues when they should be tolerating. That is a paradox I want to talk about here, when to tolerate and when to not.
If revenge is a dish best served cold, tolerance is a dish best served hot and instant. So the next time someone close to you reiterates a behavior or some words you do not like, tell him or her right away what you feel with all due respect. When we keep tolerating the things we do not appreciate, things go astray. Sometimes we become so used to being downplayed by people that we feel frustrated from within yet not show it, which is wrong. The problem is telling people what you won’t tolerate isn’t quite selfish and harmful for your equation with someone. In fact, quite the contrary. When you tell people what you do not like in their behavior and how they should be treating you, most of the times you are strengthening your equations with them. Since if you do not tell them straight away, you are lying to yourself and that person. Deep within, if some behavior in somebody has bothered you numerous times, you must make sure the person knows it. The best thing about good equations is that, in them the other person is always open to listen if you have to share something that is disturbing you.
There is another aspect of this issue. The aspect of knowing when you should be tolerating instead of overreacting. This should usually be the case when you are dealing with people you work, your elders or youngsters. Not every thing in the world should be intolerable for you. The world has many times more opinions than the number of people in it. That being said, you cannot keep disagreeing with most of them and keep banging your head. So a lot of times in life, you need to have enough tolerance to deal with patience when someone says or does something you do not like or agree with.
The point is that we need to know the clear difference between when to tolerate and when to not. Being someone who has seen the highs and lows of both high levels of tolerance and intolerance, I can assure you, that if you understand the difference between the two, and apply them with balance accordingly, your life will be very peaceful.
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