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As I inch closer to completing twenty five years in the world (a seemingly large number my horrible friends do not fail to remind me), I decided to pen down fifteen lessons from a twenty five year old (well, I am almost there). Twenty five is a really beautiful number for someone like me who loves numbers, because it is a quarter of a century. Here I go…


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Time doesn’t heal us as much as patience does.

If there is one interesting takeaway for me from this year’s Tokyo Olympics, it is that most of the times in life it requires sheer patience to reach the top of the world. What is not so interesting is that patience requires a lifelong continual effort, unlike other ephemeral responses of anger and arrogance and it does not get better with practice, you can ace it only with continuity.

I noticed during my undergraduate years and then into the corporate world, that people have all sorts of responses upon encountering a…


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So much time of our lives is wasted in delving into what is wrong. So much time of our lives is wasted by not focusing on what is right.

For the umpteenth time I made a mental note of things that according to me weren’t going in the right direction, when I heard my family’s call to have lunch. While I stared at the meal in front of me, hot and of the kind that I like, for the entire day I made a mental note to list every thing that was going in the right direction for me. Unsurprisingly…


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The power that nature holds in healing you, is beyond any magic.

It is raining in the city I reside since three days. I look outside the balconies of my house at third floor of the building and feel what a respite these three days have been in comparison to the heat we faced in the past few days. The rains have brought back the calmness in me that I was seemingly beginning to lose.

I am a sky lover. This may come across as a cliché statement, but it has now become something that defines me. Strange right? How…


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In life, most of the times after crossing a bridge to reach the other side, you don’t come back to the side you left behind. You should do that all the time.

Imagine being given the chance to either go into the highs of the sky or the lows that lie underground. Here, by highs I mean the azure coloured sky and by lows I mean the darkness and depressions that lie inside the ground that we live upon, I think I have made your decision quite easy, all of you want to go to the highs of the sky…


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Expecting someone to be good to you because you were good to them is like expecting the lion to not eat you because you did not eat it.

I have grown up listening to my elders say the Hindi saying, “Neki kar dariya me daal”, which translates to “Be discreet (private) with your kindness”.

I have heard it innumerable times and have found it one of the most difficult aphorisms to live by due to obvious reasons. No matter how much you are asked to not expect from people, a part of you still does that but human relations aren’t…


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“Ishrat-e-katra hai dariya mein fanaa ho jaana, dard ka hadd se guzarna hai dawa ho jaana.”

Mirza Ghalib was way ahead of his time when he said the above mentioned lines. The translation of the line is, “It is ecstasy for a drop of water to be lost in ocean, and pain in its greatest form, ultimately results in healing only.” One of the best shayaris of all time, I’d say.

While the world, especially my country is going through such a huge crisis, I find these lines more apt than ever. Before this pandemic hit us, we were so…


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At the end of the day, you are all you have. I say, make sure you have good.

I am fed up of myself” said someone to me some time back. What a negative thing to say in a conversation, even more negative to begin a story with, but today I want to address this entrenched negativity within all of us, that if gets intensified with time results in a catastrophic scenario.

We are all heading towards what we call self-loathing or to elucidate, I quote a recent caption by an attractive woman on a ludicrous social media platform, “We…


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Sometimes I look back and do not recognise the person I was.

One tap from our fingers and we can see You deleted this message in front of our eyes, and every time we do this, we are thankful for this feature’s existence. Another tap from our fingers and we can delete a post on social media. Another tap and a contact is deleted. One tap and we can block pestering people. One more tap and boom, we can delete our entire social media accounts. All of this is giving us the apparent impression of power in and control over…


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Lately, I have been trying to stay more in touch with the ones who make me smile, or even better, laugh.

I kept down my phone after talking with a friend for about half an hour and looked at myself in the mirror, I felt something had changed about my face, it glowed better. The person I talked with is a friend I met during my undergraduate years and who I have known for more than four years now. We talked about the most random things possible in this universe, and I remember myself laughing all the while I was…

Shivani Dubey

Ziddi Dil (Stubborn Heart) || I have been added as a writer in Noteworthy Publication.

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